{"version":"1.0","provider_name":"Equanimity","provider_url":"https:\/\/equanimity.nu\/en\/","author_name":"Boris Nauta","author_url":"https:\/\/equanimity.nu\/en\/author\/7dfa1800a2b4559c\/","title":"The Art of Not Being Offended","type":"rich","width":600,"height":338,"html":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"UEDKLhpPvp\"><a href=\"https:\/\/equanimity.nu\/en\/the-art-of-not-being-offended\/\">The Art of Not Being Offended<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/equanimity.nu\/en\/the-art-of-not-being-offended\/embed\/#?secret=UEDKLhpPvp\" width=\"600\" height=\"338\" title=\"&#8220;The Art of Not Being Offended&#8221; &#8212; Equanimity\" data-secret=\"UEDKLhpPvp\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! This file is auto-generated *\/\n!function(d,l){\"use strict\";l.querySelector&&d.addEventListener&&\"undefined\"!=typeof URL&&(d.wp=d.wp||{},d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage||(d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage=function(e){var t=e.data;if((t||t.secret||t.message||t.value)&&!\/[^a-zA-Z0-9]\/.test(t.secret)){for(var s,r,n,a=l.querySelectorAll('iframe[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),o=l.querySelectorAll('blockquote[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),c=new RegExp(\"^https?:$\",\"i\"),i=0;i<o.length;i++)o[i].style.display=\"none\";for(i=0;i<a.length;i++)s=a[i],e.source===s.contentWindow&&(s.removeAttribute(\"style\"),\"height\"===t.message?(1e3<(r=parseInt(t.value,10))?r=1e3:~~r<200&&(r=200),s.height=r):\"link\"===t.message&&(r=new URL(s.getAttribute(\"src\")),n=new URL(t.value),c.test(n.protocol))&&n.host===r.host&&l.activeElement===s&&(d.top.location.href=t.value))}},d.addEventListener(\"message\",d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage,!1),l.addEventListener(\"DOMContentLoaded\",function(){for(var e,t,s=l.querySelectorAll(\"iframe.wp-embedded-content\"),r=0;r<s.length;r++)(t=(e=s[r]).getAttribute(\"data-secret\"))||(t=Math.random().toString(36).substring(2,12),e.src+=\"#?secret=\"+t,e.setAttribute(\"data-secret\",t)),e.contentWindow.postMessage({message:\"ready\",secret:t},\"*\")},!1)))}(window,document);\n\/\/# sourceURL=https:\/\/equanimity.nu\/wp-includes\/js\/wp-embed.min.js\n<\/script>\n","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/equanimity.nu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/PATROON_1-scaled-e1735407524675.jpg","thumbnail_width":2364,"thumbnail_height":922,"description":"When someone's anger is directed at us, our primary reaction is to defend ourselves by biting back and shouting in return, or we seek cover by making ourselves small and invisible. This actually never helps. If you shout back very hard, you enter a downward spiral of reproaches together, and it becomes increasingly difficult to limit the damage. And if you make yourself small and swallow everything, it can lead to pent-up feelings of revenge that emerge at another time."}